Mentoring and Coaching. Why it is Important and How it is Changing with Remote Work.

The mentor-mentee relationship is critical for professional development because it benefits both parties.

A mentor is a person who has experience in a given field or subject and can offer guidance, support, and advice to a less experienced mentee. The mentor shares expertise, knowledge, and insights and offers feedback and constructive criticism that can help the mentee grow and develop. Conversely, the mentee benefits from the mentor’s experience and wisdom and gains new knowledge, skills, and abilities by receiving support and encouragement from someone who has been through similar experiences.

The mentor-mentee relationship also provides networking opportunities and helps the mentee build confidence and self-esteem. Mentoring relationships often create a culture of learning and development where both parties can learn from each other. Additionally, the mentor can help the mentee make important career decisions and offer guidance on navigating complex work-related challenges. The mentor-mentee relationship is critical for professional development because it provides guidance, support, and learning opportunities.


I have always liked the Buddhist approach to the mentor-mentee relationship.  It is based on the principle of two but not two.


Based on this principle, the mentee’s goal is not to mimic the mentor’s persona. Rather, the mentee should learn from the mentor’s way of life and apply that approach to their unique circumstances, expressing it through their character. Internalizing the mentor’s spirit is essential for personal growth beyond perceived limits.

While the mentor is always prepared to teach, the mentee holds the ultimate responsibility for their development. Seeking and learning are choices the mentee must make. Only by actively absorbing and implementing the mentor’s teachings can the mentee truly grow and progress.  The ultimate objective of a genuine mentor is to be surpassed by their mentee. This open-ended process of growth and succession is what allows a living tradition to develop and adapt to changing times.

Here is a simple depicition.


As Bob Dylan famously wrote “The Times They Are A-Changin’” Let’s talk about remote work.

The growth of remote work has brought significant changes not only to the way we work, but also to the way we learn and grow as professionals. As the traditional office environment becomes an outdated concept and remote work takes center stage, one area that has been greatly impacted is the field of mentorship and coaching. What has emerged are new challenges and opportunities for mentors and coaches, who need to rethink their approach to mentorship and coaching for the digital age.

Challenges of Remote Mentorship and Coaching

While remote work offers many benefits to professionals, it has also presented some significant challenges to effective mentoring and coaching. One of the key challenges is the lack of in-person interaction. This physical proximity creates opportunities for the mentor or coach to build relationships with their mentee, which can facilitate effective communication between both parties. However, with remote work, this intimacy is lost, as professionals work from their homes, often far from their mentor or coach.

Without in-person meetings, it can be challenging for a mentor or coach to establish trust, which is essential for effective mentorship and coaching. The lack of face-to-face interaction can make it difficult to establish a rapport, which can hamper the effectiveness of the mentoring or coaching program. Further, remote work can also hinder a mentor or coach’s ability to observe and analyze body language, which can be essential for understanding their mentee’s needs and goals.

Another significant challenge of remote mentorship and coaching is the potential for miscommunication. Remote communication tools like email, real-time chat or video conferencing are often used to facilitate mentorship and coaching sessions. However, these tools can easily lead to misunderstandings and miscommunications, which can hamper the effectiveness of mentoring and coaching programs. In addition, remote work can increase technical issues such as poor video quality, slow internet speed, or interruptions, making the exchange of information difficult and impacting the mentors and coaches’ ability to provide quality feedback.

More Opportunity?

Despite these challenges, remote work has also opened up new and innovative opportunities for mentorship and coaching. For example, remote work has paved the way for more frequent and regular touchpoints between mentors and mentees. The use of digital tools like video conferencing apps makes communication easier, encourages more frequent meetings and facilitates more effective communication. Thus, mentors and coaches can now connect with their mentees from any part of the world, making it easier to schedule meetings when it’s most convenient for both parties.

Also, the growth of asynchronous communication has also impacted mentorship and coaching programs in positive ways. Asynchronous communication happens when messages can be sent and received at any time of the day or night, without the expectation of an immediate response. This allows for more flexibility for mentorship and coaching programs to happen when it’s most convenient for both parties. Structuring mentoring and coaching sessions with regular check-ins, goal-setting, or follow-up offline can all benefit from asynchronous communication given the flexibility it offers.

Remote work has also led to the emergence of virtual mentorship and coaching platforms such as together. These platforms bring mentors, coaches, and mentees into a shared virtual space that enables ongoing coaching or mentorship programs that run asynchronously over an extended period. These programs have pioneered novel ways of approaching mentorship and coaching, thereby providing mentees with many new opportunities to learn, grow and cultivate their professional opportunities.


How to Overcome Remote Mentorship and Coaching Challenges

In order to overcome some of the challenges posed by remote mentorship and coaching, it is important that mentors and coaches take an integratedVideo call approach, incorporating both virtual and face-to-face interactions. This approach can help build a deeper understanding of mentees’ specific needs, communication styles, and goals. Incorporating virtual touch points, regular check-ins, and feedback sessions using video conferencing can also help build a degree of intimacy between mentor and mentee, which can facilitate more effective communication.

Building effective communication channels can help mitigate against potential miscommunications that come with remote work. Coaches and mentors must prioritize clear communication when communicating with their mentees. It’s crucial to understand the format and platform the mentee finds most comfortable with to create a communication channel that works for both parties. Consistency in meeting times and keeping channels of communication open and accessible, help mitigate against potential communication roadblocks.

While remote work has changed the way mentorship and coaching are traditionally conducted in fundamental ways. It has made it easier for mentors and coaches to connect with mentees worldwide, it has also brought new challenges to the mentoring and coaching process. It’s more important than ever to take an integrated approach to mentorship and coaching programs, incorporating both face-to-face interactions and virtual touch points.

As the digital age continues to rapidly transform industries and the nature of work, mentorship will be even more important. It is essential for individuals to have guidance and support as they navigate new technologies, new ways of working and the challenges that come with innovation. Mentoring relationships offer valuable opportunities for skill development, knowledge transfer and networking in the digital age.

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Dr. Joel Carboni

Dr. Joel Carboni is a highly respected expert in sustainable project management. He is a graduate of Ball State University and holds a Ph.D. in Sustainable Development and Environment. He has over 25 years of experience in project management, including government, finance, consulting, manufacturing, and education. He is a frequent speaker at conferences and events related to project management and sustainability and has worked in more than 50 countries. In addition to serving as President Emeritus of the International Project Management Association (IPMA) in the United States and being a member of the Global advisory board, Dr. Carboni is also the founder of GPM (Green Project Management) and a visiting professor at Skema Business School. He is also the GPM representative to the United Nations Global Compact, where he was a founding signatory of the Business for Peace Initiative and the Anti-Corruption call to action and a contributor to the development of the UN 2030 Agenda for Sustainable Development (SDGs). Dr. Carboni is the creator of the PRiSM™ project delivery methodology and the P5 Standard for Sustainability in Project Management and has written training programs on Green and Sustainable Project Management that are offered in more than 145 countries through professional training providers, business associations, and universities. He is the lead author of the book "Sustainable Project Management."

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